The art of listening.
Being hard-headed is something that I have personally fought with. I tend to do as I please. Being defiant and head strong only works when you realize how to listen to everything and act thoughtfully off of what you have learned. I used to be one that was too quick to speak but nothing could get through to me enough to where I wanted to obey. There was plenty of times I was scolded because whatever my mother told me, I did the opposite. She would say “The only way you're going to learn your lesson is if one day I tell you to go right and you go left. But, it's too late! A bomb blew up in your face.” The thought of this terrified me, even in my sleep as I fought this demon in my dreams. I struggled with the idea that my head was so hard due mainly to curiosity and that might be my downfall. I will remind you often how vital it is to know that there is a time and a place for everything. But, it is ALWAYS the time to listen. People will tell you the answer to any question, whether it had been verbalized, false account or left unasked. You first have to understand where your viewpoint is and then take what you heard from that point on…. Run with it. There are always new analysis you could come up with just by sitting back, reading the room, listening and watching. Since I've gotten older, I've learned to appreciate the lessons I was taught. I didn't listen to them but somehow the morals are now engraved in me. I had to learn to listen in order to listen to learn. This takes time and is something I recently perfected. Once I became aware of the importance of staying tuned in, it became my greatest ally. When around someone, just listen. Listen to the things they say, pick through the empty talk and align it with what you know is true. Usually, there is always a subtle meaning in everything someone says. I've recognized people will tell you who they are and how they feel without even realizing it. Why? Because a child does not know or speak on things until they are exposed to it. You can figure out what the contents of someone's mind is and how corrupt they are just by listening closely to the subconscious and conscious things that spill from their mouth. It is impossible to speak in a direction your mind can't even conceive the thought of. That's why when people talk a certain way that isn't even in my train of thought, I always say “I wasn't thinking like that”. Be slow to speak and quick to listen and aware. You don't know who's around you? Speak. Listen intensively. Listen more. Keep listening. Let them talk. Listen. And repeat. I promise there will be a portrait they paint for you. I've always been taught “real recognizes real”, “know the spirit by the spirit” and “takes one to know one”. After you listen, if the red flags are there act accordingly. Don't act like it ain't what it is. The point of listening is to gain understanding. Warning comes before destruction. Pay attention to the warning signs that you hear and use it to your advantage. Makes no sense to listen and be ignorant. Act on what was given to you.
Ru is Dai. 🌸
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